THE HURTed BECOMES THE HURTer

4/1/22

This world is so unfriendly and unkind.

 

How’s a teenager with Zeus’s ADHD,

the rage of Achilles

and the passion of Paris

supposed to survive

the suburban hostility

of drive-by bullets

of bullying

and cliques of cruelty

with privileged popularity

without losing his mind?

 

If you want to get to know me

then step inside.

 

Maybe you’ll succeed

where others have tried

or lied about what they’ve seen and heard

from the outside.

 

You can’t help but cry

as you peel back layers

of gilded pride,

perfumed with the sulfuric acid

of guilt and shame

to get to what’s inside.

 

Emotional enzymes release

as the process of unraveling me

like an onion

pricks the heart

and irritates the eyes.

 

I clench my jaw

and stick out my chin

so I can take your hardest hit,

while I shrug my shoulders

and wear a well-worn grin.

 

People are often perplexed,

thinking I’m a martyr.

 

But I’m just standing,

turning the other cheek,

rolling with the punches

like the God-man–

all-powerful but meek–

proving that in a broken world

love hits harder.

 

Wounded,

trying to survive

the daily grind

of being human,

of being alive,

during a time

when not every crime

is met with formidable punishment.

 

I’ve lived with the pain for so long now

I can’t let my guard down now

or you’ll see

all the pain you’ve caused me,

 

sucking every pretty thing—

even what we consider “usual,”

which is really just another word

for a shared miracle,

every metamorphosis

from caterpillar to butterfly,

every photosynthesis

in the Congo

to the garden outside my window—

into a black hole

caused by the implosion

of a dying star,

once bright and beautiful.

 

I’ve contemplated death

but that’s just quitting

before my time runs out;

it’s like walking off stage

before my drum solo

or my pen runs out

of ink

before the autographs begin.

 

Suicide will kill me.

I don’t mean physically

but metaphorically—

emotionally and spiritually—

all my hopes and dreams dead,

never to be held or comforted

or tucked into bed.

 

That’s not what I really want.

 

What I really want

is for you to love me instead.

 

I’ll never admit this

so don’t ask me to confirm or deny.

 

When I look into your eyes,

I pretend to be indifferent

with a stoic disguise.

 

I’ll say “I’m fine,”

which is just another way

of caging myself

and holding back the tear

that’s tied to the nerve

that’s incited this fear.

 

From a young age

you’ve abused me

with lies about my identity,

disrobing me of my kingship,

and seduced me

with empty promises of friendship

only to use me

as fodder to protect your own insecurity.

 

What I’m feeling deep down is rage,

a ball of fire that’s starting to consume me.

 

I know what I’m supposed to do

but I’m motivated by feelings

that have nothing to do

with becoming a saint or a sage.

 

Like you—

the hurted becomes the hurter

I consume those closest to me,

ravaging all life,

feeling like there’s no end

to the consequences

of my strife.

 

You feed off me

like a fat, bulbous mosquito,

flying low,

biting ankles and toes,

afraid of your own shadow.

 

You bleed me dry,

waiting until I get strong again

so you can do it all over again.

 

This is what people don’t understand:

you steal from me the hope

of being my true self,

who calls strangers “brothers,”

refraining from hurting others

and protecting others’ innocence.

 

Instead, you and my shadow self—

the imposter—

have become fast friends.

 

Now I’m contemplating life

because love never fails,

not the love of mortals

but the agape of heaven

that drips the sweet nectar of sacrifice.

 

I breathe,

strengthened by the truth

of who I am,

not a virus or infection

but a child of God,

walking back home,

no matter my insurrection

like the prodigal son,

humbling myself

and owning my imperfection.

 

I can’t change what you think of me.

 

But then again why do I care so much?

 

Maybe, it’s because when your fangs

tear into my flesh

you leave something behind,

something inside

that causes me to remember you

every time I scratch and itch.

 

I’ve chosen to heal

not by scratching

but by forgiving you,

inch-by-inch.

 

Love is seeing your sins

but not casting a stone.

 

Forgiveness keeps us in good company,

the opposite of justifying hurtful behavior

that leaves us feeling shameful and alone.

 

I’ve sinned in retaliation,

which is not an excuse

but a natural reaction

to the attraction

of opposites

that inspire a dialectic

like the protégé of Tolstoy and Dostoevsky,

who lives with the daily tension

of the ideal and the real

that manifests itself

as a choice to be taken,

paid for by divine blood

for an eternal ransom

to be accepted or to be forsaken.

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Mariann Arredondo
Mariann Arredondo
2 years ago

This is truly a piece that must be revealed to the world! Excellent!

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